This is probably the most important intel you’ll need to extract during your interrogation of your date. And by “interrogation”, we mean casual questioning. Find out how many girlfriends he’s had, how long his relationships were how some of them ended. If he has had ten different girlfriends, but none of them ever lasted for more than two months, then that’s a huge red flag and this guy could be a commitment-phobe or have other major personality issues.

Online dating has made people increasingly disposable, so for those that are afraid of commitment, it is easier than ever for them to run from you to the next one. Ask your date about things that involve commitment such as what was his longest relationship, how many different places has he lived in the last few years, and how many jobs he’s had. Some commitment-phobes don’t even have cell phones! If they can’t make commitments to a cell phone company, forget about getting them to commit

You will find that there is a big correlation between people that are close with their family and the quality of relationship that they will have with others. Sure, we can’t choose our family and stuff happens. But if your date doesn’t talk to a single member of his family, or extended family for that matter, it could be a big red flag that he didn’t black-ball them, but they black-balled him. Understand that these are just some of the major items to screen before or during your date.

In reality, there is so much more to finding the right person than just the issues we’ve mentioned above. You have to make up your own mind about what is important to you – what are you willing to live with, and what are you willing to live without in terms of your potential mate? Whatever you do, don’t feel sorry for people when dating, and look out for your own well-being first. And with all of the people out there, don’t feel like you have to sacrifice the things that you want in a mate.